by Liona Sun
Volume 19: All Out of Love
I was a freshmen in college, sitting in a room full of horney “adults” curious and eager to find out what Human Sexuality really was about. Let me tell you it was eye opening. We discussed everything from the traditional human body anatomy, to the brains crossed wiring, genetic make up and chemical imbalances of some people that made them feel different than the body were born with. It was the most amazing class I have ever taken and quite honestly I think it should be a High School requirement to help enlighten people who don’t understand that there is a difference. It is not to single people out, it is not to make others feel less than or insignificant, but to truly understand someone, you must be willing to listen and learn.
In that class we not only learned about different “types” of people such as the LGB (lesbian, gay and bisexual) community which was already widely talked about, but I was introduced to transgender, cross gender reassignment, drag queens and cross dressers and the difference between them all. The best part about the class was the guest speakers that came to our room and educated us on the way they chose to live, their involvement with the community, the way they interacted with their spouse and how they conducted everyday life.
It was the first time I’d ever known there were any kind of different classifications of people, communities or lifestyles and the first time that I actually heard them as people; how they felt, how they found the confidence to be who they felt was inside. If this business has taught me anything, it’s to be open to what is out there. Be open to what turns other people on, whether it is your own kink or not, and educate others to erase the stigma that fills our world because of other people’s beliefs. Of course I have my three rules of intolerance, no sex with children, dead people or animals. I just can’t personally get behind any of those.
There are a lot of people in the world. There are a ton of kinks world wide and there are for more people with differing opinions that seem to degrade others for one reason or another. Personally, with a gay brother, I know what he went through, but we always knew and we loved him just the same. I am more open and tolerant to difference than some people that I’ve encountered and my reply to them is always, “Are you going to be dating them? Do you want to date their partner? No! Then why does it matter?” Why is one person’s happiness more important than another? Why do we as a country, culture, or race think our way is the ONLY way? Don’t we all deserve to be loved in a healthy way that makes us feel sensual, sexy and desired? Don’t we all seek for that “perfect” relationship that empowers our existence? Just because someone has a different belief doesn’t mean they don’t deserve to be loved.
After my divorce, my then boyfriend, now husband, taught me one of the biggest lesson I will ever learn in this life, which is “Don’t assume your morals and beliefs are suited for someone else’s life.” This was mind blowing to me. I have used and taught this concept in so many areas across my life and is especially true in Full Bloom and the Romance world, when it comes to acceptance of others and their own kinks. What may be a steaming kettle for you, may not turn another person on, but it’s not your life or your bedroom that has to handle it, so just listen and learn. It is completely subjective to every single person alone! If you can step out of your own shoes, get out of your own beliefs and see them as a person, and listen without judgment, you might actually learn something. I’m not saying you have to adopt their kink into your own play, but to hear them as a person and not a vial creature is a beautiful thing.
As always, I love who I am, I love what I do, and I love the products I get to share with all of you. I am Liona Sun, Full Bloom Parties Blogger and until next time, be cool, stay safe and practice your own KINK and Sexy.
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