Volume 35: Boost Foreplay
Written by Gracie Smith
If you have ever been to any of the parties I’ve hosted, you would have me ask a question that asks if you’re a planner plotter or if you’re a spontaneous firecracker. As much as I love hot passionate, right here right now sex, you very rarely get time to play, fondle, entice or explore your partner. This is why I love being a planner plotter. Some think it's boring, but let me help you understand my reasoning behind what I do.
Sex is not just about the deed. If you think that, you have literally just kicked yourself back to the 14th century and might as well only have sex 14 days of the year to procreate. Sex is about connection, release, fun and most of all pleasing your partner. Yes, there are times when we have sex just to be sated, but most people look to satisfy their partner, even if it about ego. If you’re told or hear from others that an ex says you’re a lousy lay, it does something to you, so listen up!
This is where being a planner plotter is SOOO important and beneficial. You literally can control the pace by sending them a picture of your toys, outfit or artful self with a little note that says, “I have something planned for you tonight. Are you game?” *Side note: Men are mostly visual creatures. The less you show the more they daydream. If they get the whole boob, it’s not as erotic as an underboob, top of buttocks or side curves shot AND it protects you from future disasters should the relationship turn sour. With that in mind, let’s get back on track. You have planted the seed of desire and cultivate it by the following texts to come.
On average it takes a woman forty-five minutes to reach orgasm without the aid of toys. It takes longer if you’re not in the right mind set. Some of us tend to stew on a bad day or worry about the projects that are coming due, instead of seeking release and comfort from our partners. These are the days we need intimacy (or sex) even more. Yet, we as humans have been taught to go for the win, not lay back, take out time and enjoy the experience.
I can hear some of you calling BS right now about the timing, saying, “I can get off in 3 minute,” but have you actually stopped to think of how long it actually takes? How often during the day did you think about going down on your partner, before you got to play together? How often did you picture them kissing your neck, biting your shoulder, pulling your hair or pinning you against the wall? How often do you read or listen to a romance novel where they draw out a love scene to the point you’re ready to burst yourself? We are already intrigued to the thought of sex a lot of the time, it's just the relaxing and focusing part that needs honed in?
Our foreplay doesn’t just start in the bedroom. We have to mentally prepare ourselves to be seduced and loved. We have to relax from the day's stressors and get in the mindset to be loved, caressed and cherished. For some it is not easy to make the transition and they live more in their head. That is hard to shut off, but if you put some fun into your play, it makes the process more enjoyable. Try some of our Bloom Dust to play a game that allows you to slow down and explore for each other’s erogenous zones. Use our Body Paint to draw on and lick off areas that might entice pleasure. Use our Sensuals Massage Oil line to help you or your partner relax, release tension and roll into pleasure. Foreplay is the best part of sex, its just breaking the mold and staying there awhile.
So, the next time you’re planning an evening with your partner, think long term, like early morning tease and let them know you have wicked intentions. It may seem weird to a few who have never done it before or nerve wracking because you might be worried about their response, but you won’t be disappointed in the end. In most cases it actually rekindles a fire and brings partners closer together. If they see what is available to play with that night, they just might surprise you with a few fantasies of their own.
As always, I love who I am, I love what I do, and I love the products that I get to share with all of you. I am the creator and CEO of Full Bloom Parties and until next time, be cool, stay safe and practice your own KINK and Sexy.
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