Kink and Sexy - Mindgasm

Volume 24: The Mental Orgasm

by Liona Sun


A couple months ago I presented at an amazing Deck Party.  The night was warm she had beautiful string light jars all over and a group of friends that I enjoyed many giggles with.  In my presentation there is a part where I started teaching about the female orgasm and I ask how many types of orgasms a women can have.  As far as I had known and learned, there had only been three, the clitoral, vaginal/g-spot, and anal orgasm.  I was actually corrected and introduced to the mental orgasm also known as a Mindgasm.  At first I was skeptical, but honestly if you think about it, it makes a lot of sense.  10% of our dreams contain sexual content or involve intercourse in some way which can lean to “Wet dreams” for boys and men or “Morning cream” for women. 


It is suggested that 75% of women are unable to reach orgasm solely with penetration, and need the aid of toys, tongues or hands that provide dual stimulation of the clitoris with penetration to reach an orgasm.  It is also a known fact that 80% of a woman’s orgasm is mental, which means we have to get out of our own head, away from our stress, relax our body and be able to focus on the stimulation and amplification to our body.  There have also been studies shown that people who are paralyzed, quadriplegics and other spinal injury victims can still have orgasms without physical stimulation. 


Does this mean women have to live with the idea of never having an orgasm?  Absolutely not!  It just means we need a little help, a lot of patience and a clear head.  Typically it takes women 30-45 minutes to reach an orgasm without the aid of added stimulation.  It can take a man anywhere between 2-15 minutes.  Why?  Our brain is our biggest asset or our largest hindrance at the same time.  People naturally have thousands of stressors a day to deal with from children, family, significant other, money, car, hatred etc. that sometimes we need a little assistance to get our mind in the right place.  Some men have an amazing ability to drop everything and focus in on the need of desire and release, where as women, seem to have to prioritize and then get into the right head space.  Maybe it’s due to our ability to multi-task or our ability to obsess, but getting a massage, taking a hot bath, sweet talking, sensual kissing or food, go a long way to help us stop thinking about anything else. 


So how does one achieve a Mindgasm?  An article by YourTango (dot) com who interviews Mark Cunningham, a well known hypnotist about the technique, walks you through a guided meditation that has you sit in a comfortable upright position, close your eyes and begin to deep breathe while contracting and releasing your pelvic muscles.  This is where I assume your visualization skills come into play and you’d have to imagine being kissed, caressed and seduced all while you continue with your deep breathing and pelvic constrict and release.  The process is said to take over 20 minutes, but can be achieved anywhere including work, in your car, at home or in the bathroom, and is just as powerful as a physical interlude. 


Cunningham goes on to say “It does not happen overnight and it takes practice to calm the mind and focus on your breath, but worth the practice.”  The concept is extraordinary with the potential to help so many people feel, experience or learn how to get in tune with their own bodies on a sensual level and learn to breath and distress on a mental level.


Whether it works or not, we’d love to hear your thoughts on this kink so we can learn and grow as well.  As always, I love who I am, I love what I do, and I love the products I get to share with all of you.  I am Liona Sun, Full Bloom Parties Blogger and until next time, be cool, stay safe and practice your own KINK and Sexy.


I hope you enjoy, like, comment, and keep in touch with all the up-coming blogs.  Ladies, if you’d like to be interviewed for your own KINK and Sexy article, be sure to message me either through social media or by email at and we’ll set up an interview! 


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