by Liona Sun
Volume 15: The Long Haul
There are all kinds of couples in the world and I am not about to offer an opinion for what is right or wrong. One of the best lessons I learned after my divorce was your own morals and beliefs should not be an expectation for other people’s lives. What may work for you and your partner may not work for someone else and their partner. For example, if you are a romantic and only like being in the honey moon phase with a partner before you move on, than good on you, but don’t shame others who are in it for the forever love. If you like to play the field and spread your love with willing partners, than good on you, but don’t shame those who want loyalty. If you are the type of person that likes complete devotion and absolute monogamy, then great, but don’t shame those who are freer with their time and energy. I truly believe there is someone(s) for everyone, the trouble seems to seep in when we hope to “change” one another and think they will conform to our delights solely to be with us. I hate to burst your bubble, but it ain’t gonna happen. Love and accept them for who they are and that is it.
With that being said, this blog is dedicated to those in a monogamous long term relationship. Ladies, lets focus. Remember in the beginning of your relationship you were hot and bothered, but may have been a little shy and you may not have wanted to expose your kink just yet. Six months into your relationship you’re ready to push it to the next level and add in something sexy like toys or lingerie and you both are all over that. A few years down the road you pull out the swings or body jewelry to kick the party up a notch. Remember that? I sure do.
What happens after five years, seven years, ten years, and thirty years together? What happens after you’ve had a few children and you feel like your body isn’t what it used to be? Things might get stale and you or your partner aren’t sure where to turn to rediscover that passion. One of you might turn to porn to scratch the itch, but not include the other. One of you might play bridge or poker and complain endlessly about how nagging or demanding the other is. Let me tell you this though, if there is no romance or intimacy in your relationship, one is bound to get cranky and feel underappreciated. (Granted, there are medical conditions that prevent some of this, but that’s a whole other blog.) If you’re like me, you get inside your own head and start figuring out why you’re not perfect anymore and start to making it your fault…we all do it.
Sometimes it’s best to go back to the beginning. Get into that shy, butterfly uncomfortable feeling and spice it up. If you’ve used lingerie, kick it up by using high heels or learn how to give a strip tease dance. If you use toys, kick it up by fantasy or anal. If you’re into dress up, kick it up with a roll play game. If you’re a moaner, kick it up by talking dirty. If you’re a biter, but never nibbled, ask them to bite you. If you’ve never used toys, start small and add one in. We offer a wide variety that can be used in all sorts of situations. High vibration, low vibration, water play, temperature play, couples, solo, anal and more. What ever it is, gather up your courage and either surprise them or see if they’re willing to play. Don’t give up on your relationship or think you’re doomed for the pits or think you have to settle for what life is now. Take control and fall in love again.
“A successful marriage (relationship) requires falling in love over and over again, always with the same person.” – Mignon Mclaughlin
80% of a woman’s orgasm is mental. If you’re having a hard time connecting on a mental level, I tell my clients to do two things.
- Read the book, “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman…revolutionary for knowledge about love. It speaks to the five ways a person might feel and receive love from others by being touched, sharing quality time, words of affirmation and love, receiving gifts, or having acts of services done for them. Too many times we fall into our own ruts and routines and have to remember we all feel loved in different ways. So discover your love language AND your partner’s love language and you’ll make magic happen again.
- Every day for 30 days write out ALL the things you love about your partner. Get small and nit picky. I love the shape of his finger, I love how they buy me ice cream, I love how he washes my car…whatever the case may be. This will help to refocus your brain on love and appreciation for your partner and not anger and frustration. If you feel love and appreciation your connections will grow stronger.
Love is not easy, but its not impossible either. It takes work on both parts and we all know you’ll have disagreements. As long as it’s a HEALTHY (non-violent mentally or physically) relationship, than you can rekindle anything. You might have to get new matches, find a magnifying glass and use the sun or use kerosene to light that bad boy on fire, but it can be found again. No matter what your choice, I hope you all are happy. We are all walks of life and our path is no better than someone else’s, stick to your own and find your joy!
As always, I love who I am, I love what I do, and I love the products I get to share with all of you. I am Liona Sun, Full Bloom Parties Blogger and until next time, be cool, stay safe and practice your own KINK and Sexy.
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