by Liona Sun
Volume 8: Watching the Films
When my man friend and I first got together, one of the first things he told me was, I’m a sailor, I cuss and look at porn. I giggled in shock and never pressed it. Honest to goodness, eight and a half years later with all the arguments out there, it still doesn’t bother me. Here’s why.
Firstly, you have to realize that those people in the movies consent to it 100% and there is nothing I can say or tell them to stop it. Secondly, who am I to say what turns you on is WRONG?!!? Thirdly, men especially and 25% of women are visual beings and need to SEE in order to turn on their kink. Lastly, he may warm up the pot somewhere else, but it always boils at home.
Alright, alright, hear me out. I know there are people (women and men) that both think pornography is degrading, disrespectful, the gateway to more sexual thought and activity and gross for people to watch. I get it, I’ve heard the arguments, I don’t agree with all of them, but I understand your aversions. Yes, there are people, men and women, who take it to extremes and can only get off on the video version verses a live human being, but that is an argument for a licensed Therapist or Doctor, there is obviously more going on there than just exploring your kink. Key tip though, there is NOT a shortage of people looking to perform on camera, and there are thousands of different genres you can watch to explore your kink(s). It doesn’t have to be the hard core, smack you into a wall, pounding penetration performance that is kind-of the face of pornography. You can cater to your own kinks and switch it up when you want to. The neat thing about pornography, is if you are slightly interested in something “non-traditional,”, but aren’t ready to perform it in real life, you can watch it and find out if it fits your fancy or not. The best part about it is if it doesn’t, no one will know and you can just X out of it. It’s amazing how technology works.
Who am I to say your kink is WRONG? Do I tell you who to love or what food to eat or what close to wear or what music to listen to? NO! We are all individual beings with different likes, different tastes and way different kinks. What I am in to holds no interest for my best girl friend, but we LOVE to hear about it because we’re naturally curious beings. What turns her on makes me cock my eyebrow every once in a while, because she is more…acrobatic, than I could ever hope to be, but it spurs different ideas in my head on how to be open in different areas and I am able to give her advice or pointers, if she needs it. The biggest lesson in life that I have learned to date is, you can not control or change others no matter how hard you try. Cliché maybe, but the absolute truth and you’ll never understand it until you have one person’s quarks drive you insane to the point of a break up. You can learn to deal with it or move on, if you can’t put it aside. It’s like I’ve told you all from the beginning, “Your kink may not be my kink, but your kink is okay.” And I whole heartedly believe this. Granted there are legal limitations (babies and dead bodies are a HUGE NO-NO for anytime), but as long as you and your partner are comfortable with the arrangement and it is a turn on for BOTH of you, then why not.
Men by far are more visual than women, but a quarter of the female population need that visual stimulation as well. I personally am one of them. Even in school, I had to see a project being done before I could do it myself. The “How You Learn” test is not just for school, it’s a life trait. People who are more auditory will lean towards more auditory kinks like grunts, growls, noises or talking in the bedroom. Visual learners will lean towards more visual aspects, like pornography, lingerie, low candle lit love making. Those who are hands-on will want to have hands all over your body, they might be into massage, vibrators on you or couples bathing. Then finally there are the reading and writing learners who have to physically read or write about kinks to be turned on. These people will lean more towards romance novels, erotica literature or even write it themselves. It satisfies the mind by creating it in their own fantasies. Are any of these wrong? No, this is apart of you, how you learn, how you go through every day living!
All in all, there are thousands of things we see, hear, touch and taste everyday that will stimulate our sexual senses. We can not stop them in ourselves anymore than we can stop them in our partner. It is perfectly okay to admire another human being even in the same sex (whole other article), to appreciate the beauty of the world. You can smell the aroma without tasting the wine. I personally am a very territorial being and my man knows that is my one death to us line if he crosses. We have always been very open about our relationship and our desires as well as our limits. That is the most important thing I can stress to you all is communication. We and unique. We are smart, sexy and strong. We are passionate, vigorous and sensual and so much more. Don’t let anyone put a damper on who you are or your kinks just because they don’t understand it.
As always, I love who I am, I love what I do, and I love the products I get to share with all of you. I am Liona Sun, Full Bloom Parties Blogger and until next time, be cool, stay safe and practice your own KINK and Sexy.
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